Hi I am Rosi Bradley and I am a Professional Counsellor based in Stanmore Bay, Whangaparaoa
I specialise in working with couples, offering couple, marriage and pre-marriage counselling. Often in the busyness of life it is our most important relationships that suffer most. Couple counselling can provide a safe place to explore challenges and to offer hope. By assisting to identify and unravel destructive patterns in a relationship, clarity, understanding and new ways of relating can be discovered.
Wherever you are in your relationship, whether you are struggling through tough times or whether you are looking to enhance your relationship, I would love to hear from you. I have been married for over 30 years and have four adult children.
Couples often come to therapy feeling disconnected and trapped by reactivity that they are powerless to change on their own.
Sometimes it is every day dilemmas that couples face as they deal with differences, other times these are recurrent struggles that involve intense reactivity, and partners become polarised in their positions with little hope of coming together.
Counselling can help unravel the destructive patterns in a relationship and help each partner to empathise and understand the other’s position, while learning new ways of relating.
An understanding of the ‘why’ behind the behaviours can be learned and new patterns developed, resulting in a much freer and more enjoyable relationship.
Sometimes life changes can affect the relationship and therapy can provide a space to process these changes and the losses and grief that may accompany them.
Other times there is a loss of trust in a relationship which brings pain and hurt. Counselling is a safe place to explore these issues and to decide a way forward.
Conflict is a normal part of every relationship and learning to ‘do’ conflict well is essential. These skills can also be learned in counselling, along with healthy communication skills, that can bring change and hope to your relationship.
Our identities are made up of a mix of facts, beliefs, thoughts, evaluations and judgments. These can be positive or negative, and are ideas about ourselves gained from our social context (upbringing, school, media, and people around us).
It is from all this that we form ideas of who we are. We then behave and react in certain ways from those ideas.
It is when we get ‘fused’ in those thoughts and ideas that we become stuck, and settle into the ‘this is who I am, I can’t change’ way of thinking.
We develop strategies to cope with these ideas over time, (for example to protect ourselves we can either become dominant, appeasing or withdraw.) These strategies can become outdated and also keep us stuck and hinder our relationships.
We bring these ideas into our relationships and often are not happy in this position but can see no way out. Your relationship should be and can be a safe place to grow and develop as individuals, to understand and be understood, so that the ‘two’ can become better than the ‘one’.
Everything discussed in therapy meets the confidentiality criteria of the NZ Christian Counselling Code of Ethics. This will be explained to you, (a copy of this can be made available upon request).
$120.00 (1 hour session)
$160.00 (1.5 hour session)
“I came to Rosi after having been sent to other counsellors and never making much progress with them. I had been in hospital for trying to commit suicide…she made me feel validated, listened to, loved and empowered... in a judgement free, safe environment.
A year later I live a drug-free healthy life, with a profound knowledge that I am loved…I had zero belief that counseling worked before I came to Rosi…she is one of the wisest, most loving women I know, and I strongly recommend her, even if you haven’t had good experiences with counsellors in the past.” (Client)
“I highly recommend Rosi Bradley as a counsellor to assist with personal and relationship growth. She has independent insight and promotes safe constructive discussion. Her skills and tools assisted me to identify self developed plans and paths that helped me to understand myself and my relationships in a healthy way.” (Client)
“I have had counselling before, but nothing like this” (Client)
“Counselling has helped me so much! I’m telling all my friends, I feel more mature now somehow.” (Client)
“Rosi helped me sort through my thinking patterns and identify lies (that I had no idea that I believed) that previously led to burnout. She’s so approachable and easy to talk to that I found myself trusting her with things (that I’ve never expressed elsewhere) that she’s helped me to process and it’s bought much healing to my heart. Working with her has given me skills to sort through my thinking now, as soon as I start to feel not quite ok, rather than down the track later when I’m really struggling. I’m so glad this happened before a major crisis in our family occurred as I was able to walk through that differently than I ever would have been able to”. (Client)